How is the dynamic of this team on “Selling the Hamptons” different from what we saw on “Million Dollar Beach House”? Because there are a lot of new faces in your office.
Yeah, it’s a completely new show. There’s nothing that has relevance, which I kind of love. I had to go through the experience all over again of auditioning, you know? And I’m nervous. I’m like, “I wonder if I’m going to get it?” ‘Cause it’s something completely new. For me, it was like starting all over again, but also being really comfortable with the cameras now.
When you watch the show, I literally am myself. I don’t change for anything, so what really helps me is there’s no burden there. I’m not nervous to be on camera. I can transact and do what I do on a daily basis, and there’s someone in the background, catching and capturing everything.
I’m really excited … in business, and you know this, everything becomes a blur at the end of the year. Like, “Okay, how did I even get here?”
It’s so nice to be able to look back now, and … remember that good call or that bad call, that big deal. I don’t forget the deals because the commissions are unforgettable.
Other than that, this summer was very transactional. A lot of deals were getting done, and luckily, discovery+ was right there to cover it. Thank God, because it is something really special.
Being in reality TV, you get to go back and watch your life on screen. Is that interesting to see yourself and see those situations you were in – from literally another angle?
Oh, yeah. It’s really interesting. I also learned a lot about myself and my own character traits, and maybe some things I need to work on, because our show is very raw. It really shows everything that goes down. So for me, I think it really helps me be able to look into myself and see what I’ve done wrong and maybe a situation I was mad at that maybe I should have responded differently, you know? So, it’s an interesting thing. A lot of people don’t really get that chance.
Sometimes, if me and my wife have a little — if we bicker about something, she’s like, “Watch back the security camera. Watch yourself and see how you talk to me.” Sometimes she’s right, and I realize I got mad for no reason.
What are some of the other things that you’ve learned about yourself from watching?
I’ve learned that I need to do my own self care, ’cause I take on a lot of other people’s situations. I notice that, yes, I’m that sounding board for a lot of the agents at the brokerage, but I also need to make sure I take care of my own mental, because that’s something nobody ever talks about. It’s like, when you do so much, try to help out other people, you got to also find time for yourself.
I’ve learned that … especially this summer, if I don’t take care of myself, I can’t take care of others. Like a plane going down, you get the oxygen first, and then you can help out everybody else.
That’s what I noticed, that I really got to take care of myself and what I need to deal with, on top of handling a lot of the brokers and a lot of the agents and helping them, because we all feed off each other, and we all are in a unique situation, so we all have each other.