Fans of “Rupaul’s Drag Race” know that at end of every show, RuPaul says, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?” It’s a short self-love motto that reminds us all to look inward and connect with and take care of ourselves before we do anything else.
RuPaul shared with NPR that the idea of saying a consistent, positive phrase was inspired by his mom. “It’s a mantra. You need touchstones and totems. And, actually, it’s a tradition my mother passed on to me, which is having sayings that can help realign you in this life.” He continued, “These mantras are set to align you with the truth of who you are, which is — you are love, and you cannot give something that you do not have.”
RuPaul’s mom died of cancer in 1993, but it’s evident that her memory lives on in her son, “My mother was my first inspiration; she was totally a drag queen,” he told The Washington Post. “She taught me strength and how to be my own self.”